It’s time to hit the nail even further into the already cracked and beaten board. The horse has long since been dead but I’m still here beating away at it. Yes, time for a cliched blog rant which we’ve all probably read, fought about and resolved multiple time – Is a woman asking for it by what she wears?
Let’s paint the picture – I’m a women who works practically a full-time job while going to college. I’m constantly around the college vibe and consider myself a part of it, and part of that feeling is youthflness. Well, I’m 20 years old any in the prime of my youthfullness you could say. Let me restate this: I am a 20-year-old college female who lives in the Sunshine state.
I’m a big fashion lover, I enjoy putting clothes together to make myself look cute. It makes me feel good about myself, it gives me confidence when I walk out the door, not because I know men are going to oogle me, in fact I don’t even like ‘anticipating’ that since I feel like an egotisic bitch, but because I know I look good. And what’s that old saying? Oh, right. When you look good, you feel good.
You know, maybe not everyone needs that. I know some of the counter to that is, Well you should just like yourself as you are, it’s not what’s on the outside. Well to them I say tough shit, everyone’s different and if I want to spend an extra five minutes on my makeup in the morning because it makes the rest of my day better then I damn well will. I wasn’t ever considered pretty growing up, I was always kind of a tom boy and never really had any fashion sense, men didn’t find me attractive. All of the sudden in 12th grade I starte playing with makeup and clothes and you know what, I kind of liked the result. I kind of liked thinking that I was pretty. I enjoyed not looking at myself in the mirror and sighing because I didn’t think I’d ever be considered beautiful.
So now I dress how I do for me. And yes, sometimes it’s not the most conservative attire, sometimes it’s ‘racy’ (not even) but you know something else? I worked hard for my body, and I try to take care of it and keep it looking nice, why do I have to hide it?
Dear society why are you full of catch 22s? Why is it that I’m told to be fit, be sexy, be the ideal woman but yet when I’ve achieved it and go to show it off, suddenly I’m ‘slutty’ ‘flirty’ and in most cases ‘asking for it’. You can’t have it both ways, men.
And why can’t I do it for myself? That’s my big issue here. No one believes that women dress as they do for themselves because, OBVIOUSLY, the only reason they dress is to attract a potential man to come and whisk them away, the only fate for women. BAH. Bullshit . I dress as I do because I’m young and I won’t look this way forever, I want to enjoy it. And yeah, I don’t mind the attention, the quick glance from the opposite sex. But to say that I do it, solely for blatent sexual attention is too far.
I do it for myself. And that’s all you need to know.
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